Can't Destroy Love: Media specialist uses book to talk about fighting cancer

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By Stephen Thomas

SHEPHERDSVILLE - Barbara Creasy could cope with any struggle, including the final touches of a published book.

The librarian at Bullitt Lick Middle School, Creasy recently released her latest published work, “Cancer Can’t Destroy Love,” a piece dealing with learning to cope.

Creasy’s story includes two personal stories involving her father and a close friend.

Malcolm Creasy was diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer; he died soon after. Within weeks of his initial diagnosis, Creasy’s friend Katherine Kilcullen-Bergeron was diagnosed with uterine cancer. Creasy and ‘Kath’ met one another online through a lupus support group.

Creasy deals with her lupus condition on a daily basis. As the mother of five children, with a baby granddaughter, she has a full life to deal with as well. Suddenly her father and friend’s situations also became priorities.

“My emotional state was really bad,” she said.

At the suggestion of her church pastor, Creasy began writing about her ordeal to help with the healing process.

“I enjoy writing in my spare time,” she said. “I’ve written many devotions and services for church. It’s a part of my life. My friends had told me to write a book for years. It just kind of clicked.”

Creasy admitted it didn’t take long for her to complete what would become the book’s rough draft. She completed it following an evening participating in a Relay for Life event.

“After a long night I wrote my feelings, several pages,” she said. “From that point on I knew I needed to write the book. That was really when it began.”

Creasy’s book, released in September, was dubbed as a self-help/inspirational book, a story of surviving six months with cancer in the life of loved ones.

“This is the book I wish I had,” Creasy said.

“Cancer Can’t Destroy Love” is similar to a ‘how-to’ book for others dealing with cancer and other diseases. It assists sufferers as well as their families and friends.

In the book Creasy first suggests finding someone to talk to and share experiences with, along with receiving reactions and feedback.

Creasy also discusses the healing process following the initial shock of the news. She details her breakthrough moment, the turning point when happiness began to return.

Positive thinking is suggested throughout the book. Creasy said it was important in learning to cope with life’s situations.

Creasy also talks about the Relay for Life and its importance in the lives of cancer survivors and their loved ones.

At the end of the book Creasy supplies numerous resources for further information and places to receive assistance, including Web sites, mailing addresses and phone numbers.

“Someone had suggested that they wished they knew how to reach people,” she said.

Creasy also included information about Hospice and Palliative Care Organization, which she credited for assisting during her father’s illness. Creasy also volunteers for Hospice during summer months.

“(Hospice) was enormous help for the family,” she said. “We benefited so much.”

During the book Creasy shares some personal information about herself to help readers understand her background, discussing both good and bad personal moments.

“At times people fall apart,” she said. “They need to know how to get through that.”

Creasy began sharing her work with friends and church members. In turn, many began requesting additional copies for loved ones in need of further assistance through life struggles.

“The fact that it was helping, that was my purpose,” said Creasy. “This was not for money, this was just to help other people cope.”

Creasy mentioned a majority of the book’s proceeds would be donated to Relay for Life, the Crusade for Children and possible a few other charities. A minimal amount would be used toward future publications.

Although the book deals with personal issues related to cancer, Creasy said the book could be used by anyone dealing with any type of illness. She also noted it was useful to both religious and non-religious readers.

“If you have faith it pulls you in,” she said. “If you don’t it still draws you in.”

Creasy said she knew the book was helpful when she received a thank you note from the husband of her friend Kath.

“He thanked me and said he felt at peace,” she said. “That was really the intent.”

Creasy’s overall hope is that the book will help others as a guide in getting through personal trauma.

“Keep positive, stay busy, do not let it take over your life,” she said. “You need someone to talk to, make sure it’s someone positive. This is my life, this really is how you do it.”

“Cancer Can’t Destroy Love” was published by SunGlow Press in Nashville. The book is now available at a price of $12.95. Anyone interested in purchasing a copy may email bcreasy@iglou.com. Paroquet Springs Conference Centre will also carry the book.